Thanksgiving is the holiday we open our house. My uncle, the ever-adventuring bachelor, usually makes an appearance. It's often the first introduction boyfriends get (and the only one that matters). Various friends have passed the day with us, and folks stop by throughout the day. We make a spread of appetizers for lunch (this has been my job since I moved out), play games, watch football, and enjoy a dinner at a moderately late hour, followed by more wine and card-playing. The house is filled to capacity with people and love. It is absolutely my favorite holiday.
This year had an extra-special touch. If nothing else, it was the first time I'd been back for the holiday since before moving to Ohio. The first year I was gone, Chris & I were on a great new adventure and had a grand old time throwing Thanksgiving in Ohio. Last year Ian worked all day and I cried a lot. I have since made a pact with myself (an addendum to the general Pact To Have Adventures) that no matter the adventure I am on, I will make it back for Thanksgiving ever after. This was my planned adventure trajectory before we knew my mom had to have surgery.
My personal adventures aside, this year we were all the more appreciative of the value of the ties that bind. We all clung to each other a little more tightly, rejoiced in each other's presence. Made sure to laugh, relax, play games, surround ourselves with love and family. That word, family. It's an emotion that no adjective can replace. It defies categorization. This weekend, we all knew we were family. Language fails me here; I wish I could convey that feeling, that sensation, that utter comfort of knowing others so well, so deeply.
I have been in Eugene for two weeks now, and have focused on: rest here, help my mom rest, recover, and prepare for what's next, soak up family time, and help and grow in any way I can, while maintaining my own balance. I got up early Thanksgiving morning, ran a 5K in Springfield, and busied myself in the kitchen. I had made bread and biscuits the evening before, chopped veggies before I left for the 5K, and had a well-organized to-do list. Every so often, my mom or Althea would ask if I needed a hand. I only needed them to help out by playing cards. I bustled through the day in that manner, and suddenly it was dinnertime, and I had cooked all but the turkey and turkey gravy!
Here is what I made:
Mashed potatoes, mushroom gravy, stuffing, wild rice with walnuts, quinoa salad, garlicky greens, roasted root veggies, corn, candied yams, green salad with lemon-miso dressing, biscuits, spelt dinner rolls, fresh cranberry sauce. Dad made turkey + gravy.
For lunch we had spinach dip (dad made), hummus, roasted beet dip, guacamole, hummus, two kinds of salsa, tofu pate, Crumbs rye crackers that I brought from Ohio, spelt focaccia, fresh bread from Metropol in Eugene, carrots, celery, and all manner of chips. I bought the salsa and Toby's Tofu Pate but made all the rest.
I hardly mean to brag. I am happy that I was able to give this gift to my mother, the gift of resting on Thanksgiving, surrounded by loving friends and family. Two different friends I grew up with stopped by, catching up with my mom and I, bestowing hugs while I bustled in the kitchen.
In this weekend's other main highlight, I revisited my old stomping grounds. A few months ago, I talked my friend Erin into buying obstructed-view seats for the Oregon v. Arizona football game. What a great game that was! It was a weekend of great college football; as an aside, I was sad to see Boise State lose, but it was an exciting game to the end!
Erin and I spent the game on our feet, damp, cold as night fell on Autzen and 60,000 screaming fans. Essentially, typical gameday weather. Little has changed at Autzen, othe
(Here is the most common response, when I tell someone where I'm from: "Oh, I've never been to Ore-GONE." Yep, I know you haven't. Maybe now that the team is gaining national repute, people will learn to say "Orygun.")
I mostly took pictures of the marching band. What a whirlwind! Gameday is gameday; it felt the same as the countless previous Saturdays I'd passed at Autzen. When I was here in July, I was primarily aware of how much had changed in the two years since I moved to Ohio. So far on this trip, I've been in awe of how much everything is the same. So it goes.
My theme for Month Four of the Summer of Adventures was "roots," and that provided an excellent transition into this autumn, the autumn of dreams. I think this is the November of the Future - but where is the future without the past? We must be in touch with our roots to move forward.
I still can't quite grasp that I am truly in Eugene, in Oregon, at my parents' house. I have begun to miss Athens terribly. I am trying to embrace not having a plan, but these are thoughts for another day.



